I am just about to be 20 weeks pregnant and my babys father has been treating me like sh*t……can anyone tell me if this is normal….it hink it’s because he is scared..thisis his first child and he hasn’t ever had a steady job that he thinks is worth keeping….i think that he is scared to actually work for somethin…and/or take care of something…..sometimes he appologizes for the things he says to me and does to me but they still hurt me alot…..he hasn’t been around that much since i got pregnant…but he always talks about the baby to his family and friends…is it that he’s scared to have the baby or that he’s scared that i will have mood swings…. this is tearing me apart and i dont know what to do…can someone comment on my comment?
No it isn’t normal! There is no reason to ever treat ANYONE that way, especially the woman who is carrying your child!
I hate to sound like a public service announcement, but anyone can be a father. It takes a real man to be a Dad. Sounds like this guy has a long way to go.
Don’t give up! Pray about it. Talk to the baby’s father about it. Pray with the baby’s father about it. Try to make him understand how his actions are hurting you.
I’m sorry you are having a tough time — I hope things get better for you (and I wish I was better at giving advice).
I WOULD TALK TO HIM AND ASK HIM WHY HE IS TREATING YOU THAT WAY. IF THINGS DONT START TO LOOK UP AFTER YOU HAVE A HEART TO HEART WITH HIM OR THEY ARE GOOD FOR A WHILE THEN GO BACK TO THE WAY THEY WERE, YOU AND THE BABY ARE BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM. BECAUSE WHEN THE BABY GETS HERE THERE WONT BE ANY TIME FOR ALL THAT CRAP, TRUST ME.
I know you wrote this a while ago but I’m going through the same crap except for the father of my child is in the military. Even though he has a stable job he still treats me like he hates me at times. He’s always mad at something and blames everything on me. I’m 18 weeks now and I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. I just dont get it. I’m trying to be patient because I wan’t my child to have both parents in the same house…. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. i can go on and on but it’s really not making me feel any better.
hi i am 18 weeks along and my boyfriend has been there for me the whole time we even moved thousands of miles away together now we live in alabama with my mom and he doesnt even act like the same guy i knew i know i love him but since i have been getting bigger i feel like i am not good enough for him i so understand what u are goin through hes always yelling at me but please e-mail me ok dont worry u arent the only one goin through this ok hope to hear from u
kassy
If I was in your situation I would not accept it. I suggest that you cool off your partner and cease contact with him. This way he will either decide he will commit to you or opt out of the relationship. I appreciate what you are going through and it must be really tough. However, accepting this situation like it is now is likely to become worse once the baby is born. Even very stable relationships experience upheavals when a newborn arrives as roles have to be established. So with your partner being like how he is now …. I don’t really like your chances. There are nicer men out there. Don’t settle for second or third best. Sarah
I am going through the same thing~ I am 11 weeks pregnant and have not spoken to the father for 2 weeks. All he ever does is yell~ displaced anger~ I am much happier by myself as opposed to walking on eggshells and listening to someone yell all the time!
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July 11th, 2006 at 11:48 pm
I am just about to be 20 weeks pregnant and my babys father has been treating me like sh*t……can anyone tell me if this is normal….it hink it’s because he is scared..thisis his first child and he hasn’t ever had a steady job that he thinks is worth keeping….i think that he is scared to actually work for somethin…and/or take care of something…..sometimes he appologizes for the things he says to me and does to me but they still hurt me alot…..he hasn’t been around that much since i got pregnant…but he always talks about the baby to his family and friends…is it that he’s scared to have the baby or that he’s scared that i will have mood swings…. this is tearing me apart and i dont know what to do…can someone comment on my comment?
July 12th, 2006 at 12:36 am
No it isn’t normal! There is no reason to ever treat ANYONE that way, especially the woman who is carrying your child!
I hate to sound like a public service announcement, but anyone can be a father. It takes a real man to be a Dad. Sounds like this guy has a long way to go.
Don’t give up! Pray about it. Talk to the baby’s father about it. Pray with the baby’s father about it. Try to make him understand how his actions are hurting you.
I’m sorry you are having a tough time — I hope things get better for you (and I wish I was better at giving advice).
September 7th, 2006 at 2:34 pm
I WOULD TALK TO HIM AND ASK HIM WHY HE IS TREATING YOU THAT WAY. IF THINGS DONT START TO LOOK UP AFTER YOU HAVE A HEART TO HEART WITH HIM OR THEY ARE GOOD FOR A WHILE THEN GO BACK TO THE WAY THEY WERE, YOU AND THE BABY ARE BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM. BECAUSE WHEN THE BABY GETS HERE THERE WONT BE ANY TIME FOR ALL THAT CRAP, TRUST ME.
January 10th, 2007 at 1:12 pm
I know you wrote this a while ago but I’m going through the same crap except for the father of my child is in the military. Even though he has a stable job he still treats me like he hates me at times. He’s always mad at something and blames everything on me. I’m 18 weeks now and I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. I just dont get it. I’m trying to be patient because I wan’t my child to have both parents in the same house…. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. i can go on and on but it’s really not making me feel any better.
January 11th, 2007 at 2:11 am
hi i am 18 weeks along and my boyfriend has been there for me the whole time we even moved thousands of miles away together now we live in alabama with my mom and he doesnt even act like the same guy i knew i know i love him but since i have been getting bigger i feel like i am not good enough for him i so understand what u are goin through hes always yelling at me but please e-mail me ok dont worry u arent the only one goin through this ok hope to hear from u
kassy
January 12th, 2007 at 3:01 am
If I was in your situation I would not accept it. I suggest that you cool off your partner and cease contact with him. This way he will either decide he will commit to you or opt out of the relationship. I appreciate what you are going through and it must be really tough. However, accepting this situation like it is now is likely to become worse once the baby is born. Even very stable relationships experience upheavals when a newborn arrives as roles have to be established. So with your partner being like how he is now …. I don’t really like your chances. There are nicer men out there. Don’t settle for second or third best. Sarah
January 30th, 2007 at 7:57 am
I am going through the same thing~ I am 11 weeks pregnant and have not spoken to the father for 2 weeks. All he ever does is yell~ displaced anger~ I am much happier by myself as opposed to walking on eggshells and listening to someone yell all the time!